Demi Moore and Amanda De Cadenet Interview – The Stars of The Conversation – Harper’s BAZAAR February issue: As their daring new show, The Conversation, debuts this spring, the two longtime friends open up about body image, relationships, and finding freedom from fear. DEMI MOORE: So how about I begin and ask you, how do you feel about your body?
AMANDA DE CADENET: You know, not great. From an aesthetic standpoint, I battle with it. It’s an ongoing challenge for me that I don’t think my body looks how I want it to. If I could wave a magic wand, I would be a size 6 and still be able to eat cake every day. How do you feel about your body?
DM: I have had a love-hate relationship with my body. When I’m at the greatest odds with my body, it’s usually because I feel my body’s betraying me, whether that’s been in the past, struggling with my weight and feeling that I couldn’t eat what I wanted to eat, or that I couldn’t get my body to do what I wanted it to do.ADC: I think it’s worth mentioning that you love french fries and I love cake.
DM: Sweet and savory. I think I sit today in a place of greater acceptance of my body, and that includes not just my weight but all of the things that come with your changing body as you age to now experiencing my body as extremely thin — thin in a way that I never imagined somebody would be saying to me, “You’re too thin, and you don’t look good.”
I find peace when I don’t see my body as my enemy, when I step back and have appreciation and look at all that my body has done for me. It’s allowed me to give birth to three beautiful children, allowed me to explore different roles as an actor, allowed me to be strong. You can’t look at yourself in the mirror and tear your body apart. You have to look at it and go, “Thank you. Thank you for standing by me, for being there for me no matter what I have put you through.”
ADC: You’re right. And other than thanking my body for being strong, I also have to thank my body because I carried twins, you know?DM: All right, so what scares you?
ADC: Infidelity scares me. It scares me when it happens to my friends; it scares me that it’s going to happen to me. And I’m scared of dishonesty. I just really don’t know what to do when people are dishonest. It is alarming to me.
DM: What does it mean to you?
ADC: It’s like an ultimate fear, you know. Of being rejected, of being betrayed. I guess dishonesty and betrayal. Those are the things I’m afraid I wouldn’t recover from.
DM: It’s funny because it usually always means something else, right? So as you’re saying what it is for you, I’m trying to think it through and go, “Okay, there’s that layer, then there’s that layer, but what is it really if I get way down underneath?”
ADC: It’s being not good enough, right? It’s like someone saying, “I don’t value you. You don’t mean enough to me, so I’m just going to totally dishonor and disregard all that you’ve shown me.”
Photos by Cedric Buchet
Read the full interiew in harpersbazaar.com